When will you die?
Obviously it's impossible to know.
Yet in a strange paradox, the more we embrace the ever-present possibility of death, the more we come to life.
Here's how to get started.
Then, with the knowledge that you might live for decades or only days, literally schedule every single item on your list.
Want to increase your spirituality before it's time to go?
Want to release guilt, shame, anger, resentment, addictions, depression, relationship issues, childhood trauma, or anything else in your history?
You can start releasing here.
After 14 years of college to obtain a Masters and a Doctorate in the field of psychology, and working in the field for over 30 years, you can probably imagine the interesting studies that I heard and read about over the years. Just like a good joke - we usually only tend to remember the best ones we've heard. For me, the two studies that have stuck out most interesting in my mind are the ones that measured intelligence based on heels and balls.
WOMEN: did you know that studies have shown the HIGHER the heel you wear, the LESS intelligent you are? The study asked us to "think about it and take note" - the doctors, nurses, educators, lawyers, scientists, etc. they wear FLATS or LOW heels 90% of the time compared to those who were deemed less intelligent (ie: the study mentioned prostitutes and strippers) - they wear HIGH HEELS 90% of the time.
MEN: did you know that studies have shown that the men who prefer SMALL balls are MORE intelligent than those who prefer BIG balls. The study asked us to "think about it and take note" - even the clothing is more classy on golfers not to mention their overall class, linguistics, careers, material tastes, and gracefulness are too over those of basketball players.
When I think about it and compare with those I know, I would say that 95% of this study is RIGHT ON! Of course, I am proud to say that in my 20's when I was not very self-aware and all worried about fitting into the status quo, my heels were high. Ever since then, when I developed my career and avenue of study and found my self-confidence 27 years ago, I have been in flats and proudly so.
WHAT ABOUT YOU? If you "think about it and take note" next time you are sitting at a job interview - who will likely get the job? Who is dressed to match the job they are applying for? Quiz your date and find out if their interests and career choices match their heels or balls.
What about your friends, family members, and social circles?
Go ahead - really compare the above results to those you personally know -
DO YOU THINK THE STUDIES ARE ACCURATE?
In the words of William Blake, "Gratitude is heaven itself".
But the bestowing of gratitude is even more heavenly. It creates a feedback loop of joy that keeps increasing as long as you let it.
Think of one of more people for who you are deeply grateful. Be specific about why they inspire your gratitude.
Once you have allowed yourself to exult in that gratitude, go ahead and share it without asking for anything in return.
Yes, we are all human and, because of that, somewhere in the world it happens every day…. and I know that at least once in your life, it has happened to you too.
The “it” I am referring to is this:
Someone you care about speaks or acts hurtfully toward you and, in a self-protective response, you shut down.
Defending against such an assault, we lose touch with the NOW and any emotions requiring our attention in order to dissipate the hurt.
What to do?
One powerful way to avoid this pattern involves separating the impact of such a wound from the intention of the offender.
Most people who hurt us do NOT actually mean to do so.
Realizing this simple truth allows us to open up just a little bit. The wound may still sting a bit but it lasts less long by using the above tip.
Bonus: this will help you forgive quicker too.
Remember, forgiveness is never for the offender, it is always for you.
Why not start this year with the intention to make an impact on your own life by forgiving someone... including yourself!
An abundance of love is available in every moment, no matter how bad things may get, as long as we are present to receive it.
To find out how, choose a quiet place and focus on your natural breathing rhythm.
With each inhale, imagine taking all the love of the universe directly into your own heart.
With each exhale, imagine sending all that love directly from your own heart right back to its infinite source.
Breathe in - love.
Breath out - love.
If you practice this heart meditation for just a few weeks, you will find your capacity for love will grow by leaps and bounds.
No one ever went to the grave wishing to have loved LESS.
Only unfounded fear prevents us from sharing our heart's truth with those who nurture and inspire us.
So don't wait another minute...
Make a list of all the people you love.
Let the term "love" be flexible enough to encompass every person who is important to you at your essence, whether your specific feelings are romantic, familial, platonic, collegian, or spiritual.
Next, begin letting all the people on your list know how deeply they are valued.
This gift, you'll find, bestows as much upon you as it does them.
The human voice is like an orchestra. Each sound it makes connects us to a different emotional or sensory state.
Taking our voices beyond their usual range brings new possibilities to each passing moment.
To do so, find a location where no one else can hear you. Then start humming, whooping, chirping, and clucking.
Make every sound that comes to mind, from bass to falsetto, from whisper to shout.
Every time you feel silly, just bow to the sensation and keep going. Let one sound shift into another until you do not know what is coming next, until the sounds are leading you.
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